I think that has to win for the most self-serving self-pitying non-apology I’ve ever read.
Next time I fuck someone over, remind me to tell them it’s because I just “care too much.”
Did it change while I was watching Star Trek? What I saw this morning was a half-assed…
Like Venita said, the dramatic all lower-case “goodbye” was deleted and replaced with a “sorry if I worried people and said crazy things last night I was drunk” (Melyria had left <The Moonblade> for a few hours but has since rejoined). That has been turned into a picture showing how it hurts Melyria to be so trusting and a non-apology that takes no responsibility and only says “sorry if my affection made people uncomfortable.”
It’s the same manipulation over and over…
“I’m not stable so you need to humor me. How dare you not humor me, don’t you know it hurts me? Sure I was a stalker but only because I trust you so much! Yes, I tried to make you do things you didn’t want to do but it is because I like you so much. My life is really hard and if you call me out I will do something dramatic like threaten suicide. But it was okay, I was just a little drunk. No harm done.”
It needs to stop.
I can’t even imagine what this must be like for the victims. Talk about the opposite of closure.
And she’s still making excuses, insulting the person who asked her a question. She has absolutely no shame. I don’t even know at this point if she’s capable of understanding how normal human beings function.
First, I know that not everyone is looking or wanting an apology. I’m not going to whisper the people involved because they have me on ignore and that is a whole different issue all together, whispering people via alt to get around the ignore function. So if somebody wants an apology it is here…
I don’t get it. Where’s the apology?
You seem to be confusing an apology with an excuse and a justification. The former implies that you acknowledge wrongdoing; the latter two do not. 2-7% of North Americans suffer from social anxiety. They don’t pull crap like this and you don’t have to either.
You can’t help a condition (anxiety, drunkenness, etc) but it’s not a be-all-end-all for your actions. If you are drunk, don’t hop in a driver’s seat til you’re sober. If you tend to bully people, don’t hang out in settings that give you means (anonymity, etc) to bully people.
Take Rumze’s advice. Don’t look at what you can’t help, look at what you can help. Show people that you intend on changing your behavior. These types of apologies haven’t worked for you in the past. You have to realize your fault in this if you want to change the pattern. Your own actions are the only thing that you have control over (now).I think you are confusing explaining with justification or making an excuse. Explaining why I did something, my reasons for it, and then saying repeatedly that my reasons are not making what I did okay does not make this a justification. I apologized, repeatedly, I said what I did was wrong, repeatedly.
Is not acknowledging why I did something, as well as being sorry, important parts of trying to fix things? Would an apology without any introspection or understanding ring hollow? I explained why I did what I did because I wanted my apology to mean something, not to be a simple “Yes, I’m sorry”.
So me saying “I’m messed up but that is no excuse for what I did” is taking responsiblity. It is saying that despite how messed up I am, I still did it and me being messed up is not a way to dodge it. You didn’t seem to read what I said, because what I said was, using your own examples “I’m a drunk but that is no excuse for me getting behind the wheel”. I said so in the second paragraph.
And I went on to say that I’ve gone to the extreme in trying to prevent what happened. I’ve basically distanced myself from my friends, to the point where I’m miserable, in order to prevent a repeat.
Did you even bother to read what I said or did you just make a whole bunch of assumptions?
Oh, sure, insult the people who are asking genuine questions. That’s worked so well for you in the past. You’re still not taking responsibility for your words, you’re claiming that caellya “obviously didn’t read” it right. It’s still an excuse. Being “messed up” doesn’t make an abhorrent act harder, it makes it easier, because you are less inhibited. You know what? People don’t want your explanations, or your justifications. At this point, all they want you to do is go away.
A New Low
I think that has to win for the most self-serving self-pitying non-apology I’ve ever read.
Next time I fuck someone over, remind me to tell them it’s because I just “care too much.”
Did it change while I was watching Star Trek? What I saw this morning was a half-assed ‘goodbye’ which I actually rejoiced over and then come back to find a pitiful “my poor heart” picture and some “I’m sorry I’m so affectionate” bullshit.
Fine, she made her apology. The next thing she needs to do is disband her guild so that the people in it can find some semblance of normalcy (and that the rest of us have a marker that she’s not hanging around) and then transfer servers. Period.
People used to send Valentine’s Day cards to the people they disliked. The practice was discontinued in the 40’s, I think. Here are some of the best (worst) ones.
Fine. What the fuck do you want from me? Because I hear a fucking lot.
People say that I should post an apology. People say I should do nothing. People say I should post screenshots. People say I shouldn’t post screenshots. People say I should take a break from WoW. People say I should tend to my…
Considering that you and your guild just trolled the fuck out an event some WrA people were trying to hold in the temple, it is clear that you have no intention of ever changing. Stay classy.
Our two events were apparently at the same time, in the same place. Moonblade was forming up for a meeting when she started to talk in /say. We were unsure if this was an attempt to RP with us, so we asked her IC. When we got no response, we figured it was an event and we relocated to another part of the temple.
Please, get your facts straight. I have the leader of that guild on Real ID.
Not anymore. I highly doubt the gleader would be complaining about your behavior otherwise.
Fine. What the fuck do you want from me? Because I hear a fucking lot.
People say that I should post an apology. People say I should do nothing. People say I should post screenshots. People say I shouldn’t post screenshots. People say I should take a break from WoW. People say I should tend to my…
Considering that you and your guild just trolled the fuck out an event some WrA people were trying to hold in the temple, it is clear that you have no intention of ever changing. Stay classy.
How to Mess with Your Bird
1. Place bird on the back of your hand.
2. Move your hand towards your face.
3. As you are doing this, sing the phrase “Ahhhh, bird!”
4. Increase volume of singing the closer bird gets to your face.
5. Note bird’s reaction and adjust volume/movement accordingly.
Note: My test subject spread his wings and said “Ow! Ow! Ow!” the closer he got to my nose. Other test subjects included cat (who would not fit on arm) snake (who did not seem interested in test) and fish (who had no feet and thus kept flopping off the back of my hand and flailing about on the carpet) Upon reflection, I elected not to try this with the dog.
If you can’t fuck with your pets, what’s the point in having them?
